As a wedding planner, one of my most vibrant and exciting experiences was organizing a Nigerian-Hungarian wedding, which included a traditional Yoruba wedding ceremony.
The first significant challenge we encountered was finding someone in Hungary to conduct the wedding ceremony according to Yoruba traditions. These MCs, known in Nigeria as Alagas, are not only expected to have extensive knowledge but also to be charismatic and humorous. After some local searching, we found Balu, who has been living in Hungary for a few years and had experience with similar ceremonies.
In Yoruba culture, marriage is not just about the couple getting married. It’s about two families coming together to celebrate the beautiful love and to get to know each other better.
Who Are the Yoruba People and What Is a Yoruba Wedding Ceremony?
Nigeria is a melting pot of languages, religions, cultures, and traditions. One of the most prominent tribes is the Yoruba at the southwestern Nigeria. The Yoruba people have a deep respect for culture and traditions, one of which is marriage—the union of two families.
The Yoruba ceremony typically begins with a traditional wedding in customary Nigerian attire, followed by a church “white” ceremony. Nigerian weddings are also communal celebrations, with extended family, distant relatives, neighbours, and various well-wishers attending—often gathering 250 or more guests.
Traditions
The wedding ceremony is conducted by two Alagas: the Alaga Iduro, representing the groom’s family, and the Alaga Ijoko, representing the bride’s family. These Alagas convey the families’ responses and work toward the union of the two families. The entire event is accompanied by a talking drummer, who adds energy and excitement to each moment.
Marriage Proposal
In most Nigerian tribes, it is customary for the groom to present a marriage proposal to the bride’s family before the wedding. This gesture is not about “selling” the bride but rather symbolizes the groom’s ability to financially support the bride and their new family. It is also a way of expressing his love and appreciation to the bride’s family for raising the woman who will become his wife.
The groom’s family brings these offerings, typically a combination of cash and gifts. If the bride’s family accepts the offer, the ceremony continues.
Prostration
The Yoruba have a greeting tradition called Ìdobálè, where men lie flat on the ground to show respect. The groom and his witnesses must prostrate before the bride’s family, with their chests touching the ground for the greeting to be complete.
Afterward, the bride’s family sends blessings and prayers for a long and successful marriage.
Bride’s entry
After the tribute, the bride is come in. The bride often makes a special, symbolic entrance, usually accompanied by music, dancing and singing. This part carries a lot of joy and emotion, and expresses how much they are looking forward to the union of the two families.
Wedding Attire
Traditional Yoruba weddings often wear heavily beaded, colorful attire, with a veil and shawl. They also carry fans and wear gele (an elaborate head tie). Men wear agbada, an oversized kaftan in a color that complements the bride’s attire.
Wedding attire holds immense significance in all cultures, including Nigerian weddings, where family clothing called aso ebi is prepared. Aso ebi usually refers to a specific fabric and color worn by the bride, groom, and their families to visually distinguish them from the other guests.
Coral beads are an integral part of the bride and groom’s jewelry in a yoruba wedding. These vibrant, deep coral colored beads are believed to bring good luck, protection, and fertility to the bride.
Following the Yoruba ceremony, couples also typically hold a church wedding, where the bride wears a white wedding dress and the groom a suit.
Money Spray
A highlight of Nigerian weddings is the “money spray,” where guests shower the couple with money as a symbol of blessings.
African Wedding Décor
As a wedding planner, planning the décor with the couple and the décor company was an exceptional experience. The décor consisted of colorful, richly decorated flower arrangements complemented by woven accessories and bamboo for a unique touch. The African-inspired style of the Bambara Hotel, where the wedding was held, contributed greatly to creating a dazzling atmosphere that allowed everyone to feel fully immersed in Africa. Unique African graphics, the seating chart, table numbers, and printed materials were all realized according to the couple’s vision.
Overall, it can be said that planning an authentic Yoruba wedding in Hungary is entirely possible, ensuring that the couple’s dreams and traditions are met.
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